crash and burn - a propensity question

if your relationship leaves you with first a back-ache brought on by an accident then a stiff neck brought on by u landing on ur head while a semi-friendly wrestling match, is it your body's way of telling you "HEY, THIS CANNOT END WELL!!!"....?

apparently malcolm gladwell, the author of "blink", is convinced in the value of snap judgements. he says that u can tell if a marriage is going to be a failure or not just by observing the couple for less than 30 seconds.

that sounds like a nano-snap judgement to me.

but could there be some truth to that? should we just rely on our instincts? but what about all those people who always seem to be complaining about how bad their instincts r...u know, the single friend who says he has a propensity to always go for "the wrong kind of guy" or the hopeless female student who just happens to wind up in trouble in school every other month...r those people relying on the wrong kind of instincts?

the truth is, some people plan ahead and get somewhere while some have a great stroke of luck to get them what they want...others, the i-plan-and-i-plan-but-it-all-blows-up-in-my-face and the i-just-have-bad-luck r special. they're special because they still havent figured out a way to get with the program. something is amiss, whether it's their hindsight or instinct or daily hour-by-hour organizer chart...

me...im more of a planner...and it's because my "instincts" have not always served me well. and yet i continue find myself in not-so-delightlfully-uncomfortable situations. i guess i have that certain....quality.